Wednesday, September 14, 2016

If So.. Yes I am an Idiot

Life is always interesting. It makes you genius and sometimes idiot at a time. You feel happy when you are called genius and get disappointed when called idiot. How can I be different? But this time, I was forced to question myself when I was called an idiot for the reason I will never give more preference to.

Morning of Tuesday, 6 September was just wow! What a beautiful morning. When I opened my eyes, I saw two birds above the garden flying around and flying again. I witnessed this beautiful scenario most of the times as I am one of those lucky ones to have garden outside my window. I just wanted to lie on my bed and enjoy the morning. But it clicked that I had my classes. 'Gosh! Already 7:30, girl wake up and get ready'. I rushed towards washroom to get fresh, although I was in hurry I didn't forget to look at mirror and give a smile. I usually do that to give a good start to my every morning.

I became fresh, offered my prayers and done with my tea. Now, dress, thank god it was ironed last night. White kameez and light green shalwar with dark green dupatta, was not bad as I was comfortable with it. I was never dress conscious back in my country but this is one of those development on me after coming here in Pakistan.  Properly ironed and well-dressed was the major change I could observe. But still when I dress, I always look for my comfort not for others and I still believe that dress should please me first. As always, I was comfort with the shalwar kameez that I was wearing and proudly I received good compliments for the dress.  

Coincidentally, it was the Defense Day in Pakistan, and I was unknown. When I reached department, every single person I met (whom I know) started chanting, "Pakistan Jindabad!"  I was like Ok! Fine, thank you. Besides, everything was going normal as usual. Then suddenly we were informed that we will have two free lectures, and what else, this was the best thing to hear as we get enough time to chit chat and sometimes out for breakfast as well.  We planned to go somewhere for breakfast. As I don't know much restaurants around this city, my friends were busy discussing and I started talking with one of my male colleagues. At the beginning of our conversation, I received common compliment of that day, "Oh! White Kameez and green Shalwar, Pakistan Jindabad!"

 I asked, "Why is everyone saying Pakistan Jindabad?"
He said, "Today is Defense Day. And also you have worn white Kameez and green Shalwar, the dress that we specially wear in Independence Day, which is 14th August."
I said, "Ok! Happy Defense day! Sorry! I was unknown to this fact."

He said, "But do you know that your dupatta is not matching with your Shalwar? You should have worn light green dupatta. What kind of dress is this that you are wearing? Complete mismatch."
Picture from Google
And he started giving his own suggestions that was irritating me. It was not the first time he commented on my dress, good or bad, he always notices what I wear and passes comments which I never ask for. I was on my head, why should someone have problem with what kind of dress I wear. My anger was repressed since long, and that day I just couldn’t stop myself.
I shouted, "What's your problem? I am comfortable with this dress and it's not necessary that I should please your eyes. I am dressed according to the society where I am living now. Why should you comment on my dress? I never ask you if I am looking beautiful or not and I don't think you are here to look upon dresses I wear."

I was a bit loud and many of my colleagues were shocked to see me in anger. However, another friend consoled me and suggested me to ignore those kinds of persons. I was calmed down. After sometime, I felt bad that I shouted at him. I was feeling bad for being so loud and thinking that I could have 
told him separate, but no I told him many times it was important; but he felt bad, maybe he felt insulted, but you felt insulted many times when he commented on your dress, hairstyle… Ah! These feelings, guilt were just killing me that suddenly I received a message, "Today you did really unethical. I will never talk to such an idiot girl." I replied "Thanks" and was blocked after that.


Then, I started thinking if I am seriously an idiot. To be angry for commenting on my attires is an act of idiot? Should I always close my mouth when someone comments on my attire? My mind was about to burst with these questions then I realized it's fine if someone calls me idiot for this. It’s better to be called idiot then to stay quiet when someone comments for what you are wearing. Let people gossip but it's your life let you live it on own.  Because one of the prominent American writer and illustrator of 20th century Dr. Theodor Seuss Geisel also says, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”